My wife is okay with me riding. But we have a deal that I will be careful, not ride into the city (very often) not go too fast, stay safe. I wear full gear and try and keep alert. When I went up to Indian Lake last summer she asked me to stay off the superslab and even though it meant an extra 1.5 hours each way, I agreed. I respect her feelings.
Anyway, a few months after I got the Bonneville she started window shopping for bikes and actually picked out some 800 cc Harley clone thing from some woman in town and as part of the deal she got invited to hang around at some picnics and rides with the "Iron Riders" , a local HD pirate club here. So, of course I nixxed all that, essentially because the bike was 12 years old, needed carb work and was 4 grand (!), and the whole pirate thing. I mocked the club and my wife blabbed about it to someone and its a small town so one day at a town event someone I barely knew asked me why I always make fun of the Iron Riders! Ooops!! Hey - they are nice people but I'm not wearing a doo rag and a leather vest with a patch and neither is my wife.
So after dashing her dreams of Harley riding I found a really nice GS250 for her and tried to teach her to ride, I took her to get her permit and I registered the bike and I suffered long and hard as she tried to learn the basics. She used to ride dirt bikes with me a long time ago so she had the basic reflexes. But she was really a novice level rider and she only improved slightly. She was really limited to back roads and short cruises.
After a year of riding she lost interest .The bike, registered and insured, just sits there. She keeps telling me she is going to ride it, so I have been taking it for short "mercy" rides. I just put new tires and GS450 forks on it. That little bike handles! Anyway, her permit expired, now she says she will renew it in the spring. I am thinking of getting her a Buell Blast like Mrs. Pepper has in the hope that the nicer bike and Harley connection will interest her.
A friend of mine bought a nearly new Dyna Sport and then his wife bought the Dyna Lowrider.. I think it was the worst thing that ever happened to him. She TOTALLY RULES his life and he can't go riding without her, when she wants and with who. So he has a nearly new DYNA and has put on 1000 miles in 2 years. Poor bastard. His first job at every stop is to take her jacket for her and get her purse out of his saddle bags.. I haven't seen him since I had a minor disagreement with his wife about me riding ahead and she banned me. He isn't allowed to ride with me because I am a "total a--hole". Translation: I don't bow down to her and let her rule my rides and my days off so she hates me.
So, its complicated.